Okay, so maybe this isn't about men just yet

Julia, there will be all kinds of girls in your life, just as there will be boys. Now, you may date these boys and be their friend, and discover the odd paradigm that is a female-male friendship... but girls are always different. From the time we are born, our mothers and our fathers can tell the difference between them and us. So naturally, being so hormonal and such chemical beings, the dynamic becomes interesting when we decide to befriend one of our own. The way females congregate, anywhere down the line from little girls to women, reminds me of a circle of pheromone-ridden female tigresses. We can't just be around eachother. We have to size eachother up, ruffle our plumage when we feel threatened to make ourselves seem bigger and more sufficient than we are, and we have to make preemptive moves, just in case that little hussy that you know nothing about maybe one day turns out to be an actual hussy. So women gossip and shred the reputations of one another because there is such striking power in numbers. It doesn't matter if any one of them knows differently that the individual in question is not a bad person, they will nod and agree like puppets because unfortunately that is all that most girls with so little gall are. Funny thing is, you will see this happen over and over again. You will hear a girl plant a bad seed about another, and within two years, they cross paths, actually get to know eachother, and become best friends. Never judge someone by what others say. I don't care if she is wearing a tube top and boy shorts to school everyday, you do not know her life. You only have the right to make a character judgement when you full well know that person's character. There are a couple people in this lifetime that I don't prefer, and that is because they have repeatedly hurt me or shown bad character. I know for a fact that these individuals are hurtful, unkind, and jealous creatures. Only then do you have a right to voice your opinion. Also, on that note. Be careful what comes out of your mouth. You can't trust many of the people that you think you can, and you can trust more than you think as well. But usually, thanks to human flaw, we put our trust in the wrong people. Figure out who those few worth trusting are, and stick with them. The perfect friend is one who can keep your darkest secrets and love you just the same with even though they have that knowledge. Regardless, you will encounter some catty girls in your life, but that is all they are... little girls in grown women's bodies. Sometimes I'm still trying to figure this one out, but I've been chalking it up to A) Insanity and/or personality complexes B) Jealousy or C) WTF.