Boys suck, throw cat poop at them

Ah, now little sister, I can preach to you about one of my most well-versed subjects. The male entirety. Be very wise in who you allow yourself to love. Attraction is human, but love is a choice. Make that choice wisely, because once it is made you have given that other person 100% control of you, whether you accept or deny that fact. Don't give that privilege to a guy who has no idea who he is, because he will change his mind about that, and about you. Find someone with a good head on their shoulders, who is pointed in a direction. Stick with your instincts. If you ever have a red flag moment where you think to yourself, "He is probably cheating on me." He probably is. Don't jump to conclusions, just adjust your commitment accordingly and wait for him to come out with it (or someone else if he's truly that much of a coward). Unfortunately, most of the "men" in your day, are raised by little boys in grown bodies. They are taught that if they benchpress, or drive a nice car... they are a man. Nevermind about providing. In this day and age, it's fine for the Mr. Moms of this era to sit back and let their wives make the living. Nevermind planning a life with a family in it. Even if a guy doesn't know if he wants a family just then, a sensible one will do his research and plan so that he at least has the option if he decides to have one. Daddy raised us to find men who were just as strong and ambitious as we are. We were raised to make something of ourselves, so do not degrade yourself to being with someone who makes stupid decisions and drags you down with him. I'm not saying that you can't be with a bluecollar man if you want to be. He doesn't have to bring in alot for it to be enough. Just make sure he is a good man. You are so smart. I can see it. And I get so excited watching you do your homework in advance, and ace your math that you were struggling with. If you let yourself, you can go so far. Don't let a boy manipulate you into losing that. Even if you are unsure, don't drop everything for him. A guy who loves you either works around what you want, or he finds a way to become a part of it. If you want to go travel, he would be the guy that would encourage it, or come with you. If you want to go back to school and get your masters, he'd be the first one to say, "Go ahead." And likewise, you need to be good to him. When you find a keeper, don't get too comfortable and think that you can treat him as you wish. He's a keeper because he's exactly what you want in a man, don't chase that off with moodiness. And Lord have mercy, don't you become one of these demanding high maintenance women who wants the moon and nothing but. As long as he's putting in effort, and trying, show him that you appreciate it. Trust me, appreciation goes a long way. Even if he brings you flowers and you comment later that you love how he did that. Guys thrive off of that approval, even though they like to pretend that they are too manly to care what a woman thinks. He cares, trust me. But on the same note, don't become a doormat. If I see "Welcome" written all over you, I am going to be livid. You weren't raised to let a guy take advantage of you. You're going to be a beautiful young lady, and Daddy raised you to know that you have options. As he says, "If this guy won't pay to take you out, another one will." Again, monetary value is not what it's all about. I'm talking about whether or not he puts in the effort. If there is no effort, and he is headstrong that he's not going to try anymore, then move on. But have discretion when deciding when to jump ship. Not every argument is the end of a season, and not every bickering is a sign that it won't work out. Sometimes he'll have a bad day, and he'll take it out on you, and trust me you'll do the same thing to him. There are always road bumps in relationships. Trust me. It's not pretty. So don't go into a relationship expecting butterflies and rainbows. It's messy and it hurts sometimes but all the while, it is worth it. Just be careful, little sister, with what you invest in.